You make compromises you wouldn’t typically consider in order to give the relationship a chance.Still, connection or not, you must take a sober look to determine if someone is truly available for intimacy.One thing I loved about the Dating Version of Meredith is that I was so open.I was fearless and honest; I never felt like I had to hide anything about my past relationships, nor emotionally, and I never felt like I was game-playing nor guarded.Before you can ask for what you want, you have to First, begin to ask for what you want from yourself. If you want to be kinder, more open, more out-going and courageous then slowly begin to ask yourself to take those risks. If you want to be accepted then begin to ask for it. Learn to ask for what you want and start with yourself.Keep asking yourself for what you want until you give into yourself and finally do it. We believe, most detrimentally, that if others really knew us they wouldn’t like us. In relationships I used to give political and ambiguous answers when asked tough questions.A soul mate must be willing and available to have a relationship with you.If he or she is unavailable, this is not your soul mate at the present time.
You accept behavior that you’d never tolerate in friends. The electricity can feel so incredible and rare, you may mistake intensity for intimacy.Guarded means lots of different things to lots of different people, and it’s rooted in even more different feelings. This type of “guarded” R and I were discussing – aka my former type – exhibits as a girl with a tough exterior – she’s edgy, she dishes it out and she can take it right back, she isn’t overly emotional. But what may seem like a personality type or act is actually more like a defense mechanism used to protect against getting hurt.The best way to explain it is to explain how the whole guarded game works using the example of giving and receiving affection in a new relationship – a real trouble zone for any guarded person.I would meander, I would talk in circles, and I would bullshit.When I learned to simply say yes or no and stop explaining I found that I could get my point across a lot easier.You Walls are the way that we hide from other people.